[su_quote]We should treat all trivial things in life very seriously, and all serious things of life with a sincere and studied triviality. — Oscar Wilde[/su_quote]
The above quote is from Oscar Wilde’s play The Importance of Being Earnest, A trivial Comedy for Serious People (1895). Wikipedia’s in depth literary analysis (Ahem. #CredibleSourceAlert) tells me that The Importance… is the most trivial of Wilde’s society plays, and the only one that produces “that peculiar exhilaration of the spirit by which we recognize the beautiful and that it is precisely because it is consistently trivial that it is not ugly”. The character Algernon says in Act II, “one has to be serious about something if one is to have any amusement in life”.
I am inclined to agree with Algernon. However, I will take it one step further. Let me take a moment to illustrate.
As I rode the bus to work today, I saw a woman.
This is the woman. And her baby. Heading to the hospital for cancer treatment.
I bet many who see her pity her. I, however, do not.
Her pain, her struggle clearly evident.
I saw her strength. I saw her heart. I felt her courage. It made me stronger.
She had no choice, though. She had to show it to me. She had to show it to the world. To me, her Cancer is her earnest triviality making her beauty all the more serious. All the more real.
A dear friend asked me this week why I am writing this blog. My answer to this question is really quite simple.
We cannot get lost in the enormity and gravity of life’s situations.
This blog is my earnest, my sincere and studied triviality of Heart Failure. My lived experience. Unlike Oscar Wilde’s characters I cannot maintain a fictitious personæ shielding my pain simply for the convenience of social obligations.
Why? Because I have a choice. Because I want to show it to you. Because I need you to hope, to learn, to smile. But most importantly, because I need you to see.