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  1. Francesca Milliken
    December 30, 2013 @ 7:55 am

    I can’t tell you how much I love this! Thank you. Something pretty traumatic happened to me when I was 14, but neither of my parents knew about it at the time. When I finally told my father (not a particularly attentive or loving man) about the assault 6 years later, he responded by saying, “I just want you to know dear that doesn’t change the way I feel about you.” I am fairly certain that the metamessage was that he now thought I was damaged goods. Your post helps me remember that the real definition of defective or damaged is just human.

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